I foulnd a picture of another woman in my husbands billfold …what should I do?
Question by somelike: I foulnd a picture of another woman in my husbands billfold …what should I do?
the woman is known for being very friendly with men. She also keeps calling my husbands phone even though I’ve told her to stop. She also has come over to my house many times even after being told to stay away. My husband says that there is nothing going on .that it is just business( my husband does custom auto upholstery) She has called my work and left word for me to call her but when I did call her she said she wanted to get everything out on the table but then said that we could meet somewhere….. but she never shows up to meet me. She has left several threatning messages on my husbands phone saying that we’de be sorry that we treated her like so many others had done….. what should I do???
He doesn’t know that I found this picture yet
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Answer by Cheryl G
GET OUT!!! He is a CHEAT!!!
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about 1 year ago
I think it’s time for you guys to go your seperate ways… otherwise I think we’ll be seeing you on Jerry sooner then later.
about 1 year ago
Ask him what she is doing there. Tell and show him what you found and watch his expression as he tries to answer the question. If need be take him on the Maury show and have him take a lie detector test. Why would he have a picture if it is just business??? Does not make sense to me and this seems suspicious.
about 1 year ago
If you can, hire a private investigator to follow your husband to see if your suspicions are valid.
If they are, you will have to decide what to do about your marriage.
If they are not, perhaps you and your husband should call the police or get a restraining order.
about 1 year ago
Personally I’d ask him about it, but don’t confront him in a threatening manner. Just explain that her presence in his life is causing concern for you. Is there a reason this woman is around him so much …does she work for him or with him?
It could be you have an over active imagination…alot of woman have issues with their hubbies female co-workers, but it could be more serious also. My husband works with several gals who fall into different age groups.. but he doesn’t carry a picture of any of them.
I wish you the best and hope he can put your mind at ease.
about 1 year ago
Your issue is more with your husband than with this woman.
You need to sit down and have a heart to heart talk with him about your concerns.
It takes two to tango so if your husband is not doing what he should to discourage this woman’s behavior, then he is either involved with her or he is clueless.
about 1 year ago
I would ask your husband about the picture. I dont know how he would explain having a picture of someone who’s “just a client” in his wallet. I dont know how you could figure out for sure if they have something going on, unless you followed them or hired someone to do that. Good luck! I hope everything works out!
about 1 year ago
Mention that she is harrassing you and leaving threatening messages and then tell your husband that you found a photo of her in his wallet. See what he says. If he says you had no right to look in his wallet, then tell him he has no right to have a photo of this psycho in his wallet. You must get to the bottom of this. She looks like a fatal attraction psycho and if she comes near your home again or leaves more threatening messages, always have a tape recorder ready, tape her threat and then report it to the police. Make sure you get a police report on record if she continues to harrass you. Also get your husband involved. Why should you be enduring this yourself. If he is not guilty of anything, then he should tell her to back off and get lost. This woman could be dangerous.
about 1 year ago
DIVORCE – life is too short for that!
about 1 year ago
let everyone in the Family know what is going on so that your husband can own up to it. this will get him on your side in getting her out of your lives, alone you will fail, in force you will have Victory!!!!
about 1 year ago
If you can afford it, hire a PI. If you can’t take a day off from work or leave early and go to her work, if you know where it is and what time she leaves. Confront her in the parking lot and ask her what she needs to get out on the table. After that you can go get your husband’s side of the story. You’ll know who’s lying.
about 1 year ago
wow, your married so there is no easy way out of this. All ways lead to confrontation, I recommend catching him in the act. This is not business anymore, something is going on! Dont be the one caught snooping through the others things. Not the way to support your arguement. He will end up saying” I cant believe your snooping through my things” I would also stop trying to contact this woman, to much drama and who knows the true story. Investigate further and find out with your own eyes. if it continues I know a great investigator
about 1 year ago
You and your husband TOGETHER need to get this woman out of your hair!! I would explain this to my husband very clearly and make him understand that it is absolutely necessary that you show in a united way that her actions are unacceptable and that she needs to leave both of you alone.
about 1 year ago
First, when she calls sometimes hand the phone to your husband. Then get your other phone and listen in. If that dosen’t work, talk to your husband and tell him that it is getting serious.
about 1 year ago
Stop looking in his personal things; when you look for something you will find something thats going to hurt you. What you should be looking for is something or some way that will get his interest with you. Nagging, fussing, and b’ ing about things just going to drive him to other things. We women need to learn the man married you, and whatever it was that got his attention before and the same thing that will get his attention and keep it. Now if you were doing something that was not a natural gesture on your part, but you where doing it to get him; then you are now stuck in doing that forever if you what your man’s attention. If you pretend to be a freak, then you need to continue. You pretend you are not a gold digger, then continue, etc…The same thing it took to get your baby is the the same thing to keep them.
about 1 year ago
you better tell him you got her picture, and you should get a restraining order against that wacko, she could make some serious problems, IF, and i mean a big IF your hubby is hiding a secret.. so be cautious. good luck.
about 1 year ago
well i would go to my husbands work as much as possible and keep an eye and see how much she come in there or calls there if she came in there i would point blank ask her in front of him what it was she wanted to get out on the table make her say it in front of him and then watch his reaction to see if he looks or acts guilty ,maybe she is a old flame and keeps wanting more , and trying to blackmale him for some reason , never know now if she has his cell number then make him change it and then tell him if she gets it again you know he gave it to her have your home number changed or her number blocked to where she can not call your home , but i would face her infront of him i would point blank ask her what her problem is and why she wanted to meet with you and get everything out on the table that way your hubbie knows she is talking to you
about 1 year ago
Divorce him.
about 1 year ago
If it werent for the picture I say she sounds like a psyco, who might be trying to cause trouble. But if he is carring a picture of her, either he is seeing her, or she gave him one and she crazy so he put it in his wallet, but he should have told you if that were the case.
about 1 year ago
He is already getting on with her. Seriously. Watch out. They are playing you for the fool. What a punk your husband.
about 1 year ago
Seriously! If you believe that he is doing business with her all those times and he does what line of work?….Uhhhh, wake up honey! Do you trust him? Obviously not if you are on here asking for others opinions. Re-Examine your relationship and call Dr. Phil!
about 1 year ago
***READ THIS ONE, PLEASE***
You know your husband. Has he recently changed some things about himself? Has he started to work-out seemingly out of the blue? is he taking more time than would normally be usual for personal grooming? Has he changed his appearance, such as clothing or hairstyle? When your intimate, is he trying new things, or asking you to do things in a different way? If you answer yes to any of these questions, you may need to take a closer look at the person you are married to. If it appears to you that he is the same man as you married, than it may be that this woman is being vindictive. Maybe she made an advance on your husband and he turned her down and now she wants to make him suffer by putting doubt in you head. As I said at the beginning, YOU KNOW YOUR HUSBAND, and you will know if things have subtly changed, or not.
about 1 year ago
This sounds like “FATAL ATTRACTION” her intentions are not sincere. You husband is cheating. He needs to take responsibility for his actions. You need to know exactly what you want from him and your marriage to him and find help.
about 1 year ago
You’re in trouble, big time. I would see a lawyer, and have him contact her. That should do it.
about 1 year ago
go kick her ass and take your husband to the cleaners.
about 1 year ago
As you described this Woman it seems like she is a person to be considered almost dangerous, if I were you I would have called the authorities and make a report on her for Harassment, and also a peace bond, I am sure that if you do that and she still tries to stalked you, then she will be arrested, and be in jail. She sounds like she might be disturbed or some of her marbles are missing, if you know what I mean. Maybe your Husband had something to do with her, so, she thinks that gives her the right to get angry. Remember there is no wrath like a Woman scorned, is so true, with a woman like this one. I hope that you will be able to find a solution to this big problem you are facing, because it is scary to have someone like this Woman be stalking you and your Husband. If he really was the culprit with what is happening to you both, shame on him.
about 1 year ago
he is a dog i was in a simular situation he is cheating tell him everything the say i want a divorce because aint nothing going to clean this up trust is gone if there is no trust there is nothing no respect love or what once was leave him he made his bed make him lie in it
about 1 year ago
my guess would be he’s sleeping with her. Talk to him about it calmly. If you think your relationship can be mended, try to. If not (most likely not) you should leave him.
about 1 year ago
Hey Babe ,you are way to beautiful and special to put up with being put on the back burner . Simply tell your man it’s either you or her , since taking the issue to her and her being a decent woman about it she turned out crazy. Its all up to him making her leave him alone for good. Stay strong and if you don’t get your way tell him to kick gravel and travel……
about 1 year ago
He is such a cheater!!!! Listen to yourself and read your own email. It’s so obvious….
about 1 year ago
Report it to the police, so at least if something bad happens it will be on record.
about 1 year ago
I get the sense that you aren’t asking the moral majority in here if you should leave… you want to know how to get this woman out of your lives. If that’s the case, it will take both of you — you and your husband — to present a united front.
Tell your husband you found the photo, and about the phone calls. Tell him you want him to tell her to get out of both of your lives. Make him tell you the truth (this will hurt, because he has clearly been involved with this woman). Then, turn the tables. YOU call her. Tell her you know about the affair, and it is over. Hand the phone to your husband, and have him repeat the same thing. Once it’s out in the public, there’s very little harm she can do.
You and your husband need to go to counselling to make your marriage straong again, and if he cheats again, you should have him castrated…
about 1 year ago
leave that cheater
about 1 year ago
It sounds like you already know pretty much about this lady, And if she has been harassing you you should tell your husband that he had better put a stop to it or since you have already talked with this lady and she is leaving threatening messages to you & your husband then you should tell her yourself or call the police and press charges against her. You should also tell your husband that you have found the picture of her and if she seems so harmless to him that he will not put a stop to her harassement then he should go live with her so that you don’t have to put up with anymore of his/her bull shit anymore.
Good Luck!
about 1 year ago
SWEETIE THIS DOESN’T SOUND TO GOOD. COULD SHE POSSIBLY BE UPSET ABOUT A JOB HE DID FOR HER? WHAT EVER YOU DO, DON’T MEET WITH HER. AT LEAST NOT BY YOURSELF. I’M AFRAID FOR YOU. THE PICTURE YOU FOUND WASN’T A BUSINESS CARD JUST A PHOTO? WELL THEN SOMETHING IS UP, AND I THINK YOUR HUSBAND MADE A TERRIBLE MISTAKE, MESSING WITH HER. IF YOU CONTINUE TO RECEIVE THREATENING MESSAGES I WOULD CALL THE POLICE. JUST PLEASE BE CAREFUL AND TALK THIS OUT WITH YOUR HUSBAND. CONFRONT HIM ABOUT THE PICTURE, I WOULD. GOOD LUCK..
about 1 year ago
Girl if you do not already Know it and I cannot believe that you are that naive, Your husband obviously had an affair with her, and then wanted to break it off and she didn’t. Did you watch fatal Attraction? You need to kick him to the Curb, Once a Cheater always a Cheater.
about 1 year ago
Personally, a close and personal talk when no-one is around, would be my first suggestion. Still continues, get a ” Restraining Order “. I believe you would qualify. Good Luck !
about 1 year ago
Leave the jerk .
about 1 year ago
Get a restraining order against her. Change your phone numbers.
Kick your husband in the balls.
about 1 year ago
keep your suspicions but wait til you have evidence then leave
about 1 year ago
if this was CSI, i’d question how your husband cannot be aware of your supicions and the picture and the messages on HIS phone and….hmmm
about 1 year ago
tell him you found it!!!!Ask him why it’s there! get rid of the psycho woman before things get really crazy!!!
about 1 year ago
HES A CHEATER LEAVE HIM ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER!!!
about 1 year ago
First of all, report her threats to your local police department — if you have saved the voicemails, play them for someone who can help you fill out the paperwork to get a restraining order that will force this woman to stop calling you and stay 500 feet away from your home and work — and will have legal consequences for her if she violates it.
Second, you’d better find out why your husband has this b****’s picture in his wallet — that sounds more than a little shady to me, and I don’t have a suspicious nature!
Finally, stop trying to talk it out with this crazy person: she is BAD news and you don’t need that in your life.
about 1 year ago
She sounds crazy. It almost sounds like he may have made a mistake with her & now she’s not letting go.
Perhaps you should tell your husband your concerns.
about 1 year ago
i would get a divorce & move out
about 1 year ago
Drop the bum like a hot potato. I know easier said then done I’ve been there girl but come on it ain’t worth your self respect sweetie get out fast and don’t look back.
about 1 year ago
Your husband should never have taken the picture from her in the first place. If he was too shy to refuse the picture, he should have discarded it right after. Unless there was someting going on between them. I am not saying infidelity. But even if it was just “teasing”, he deserves the misery he is going through, not you. Tell him to straighten it out with that lady, and to do it soon.
about 1 year ago
wow how many cars does she own? where do i begin? Take the picture and place it on the dinner table.Calmly explain how you were getting extra money and found it. Get the phone with both of on the line and have him end it. Either you or her. However during the conversation inform him of her tricks. If after the call ends he is not repentant then get proof and a divorce. Good Luck
about 1 year ago
Your problem is with your husband, not just the woman.
She would not be such a presence in your world if HE was not encouraging her.
What does she have on him to warrant blackmail and threats?
I’d file a restraining order and save all of her messages. Definitely let the police know that she is a menance.